Improve Studying

What I can do to improve my son or daughter's studying

1. Accept your child as they are
   
2. Help them in clarifying their career goals
   
3. Allow them to plan their own study schedule
   
4. Provide an undisruptive environment in your home physical as well as psychological
   
5. Let them enjoy their learning rather make it tough
   
6. If they wish, sit with them, to offer some help regarding their subject
   
7. Be specific in criticizing your child's behaviour or action not your child. "what you have done y'day is hurting me" instead you can tell "I feel angry because of your ...................action"
   
8. Have some common grounds to share about yourselves.
   
9. Provide them constructive feedback and point out always the event or task and not the person.
   
10. Do not compare with others
    
11. Work with them to identify their weak area and offer a supportive environment to improve their skill in that area
    
12. Have in touch with their friends and teachers and get their feedback also
    
13. Be careful to conform that you are not only talking about studying with your child
    

What Parents Can Do

Parent's involvement in children's academic achievement is crucial one. Although most parents do not know to help their children with their education, with guidance and support, they may become increasingly involved in home learning activities and find themselves with opportunities to teach, to be models for and to guide their children. When schools encourage children to practice reading at home with parents, the children make significant gains in reading achievement compared to those who only practice at school.

How you can help your children. Let us see….

1. Establish a daily family routine.

Examples: Providing time and a quiet place to study, assigning responsibility for household .chores, being firm about bedtime and having dinner together

2. Monitor out-of-school activities.

Examples: Setting limits on TV watching, checking up on children when parents are not home, arranging for after-school activities and supervised care.

3. Model the value of learning, self-discipline, and hard work.

Examples: Communicating through questioning and conversation, demonstrating that achievement comes from working hard.

4. Express high but realistic expectations for achievement.

Examples: Setting goals and standards that are appropriate for children's age and maturity, recognizing and encouraging special talents, informing friends and family about successes.

5. Encourage children's development progress in school.

Examples: Maintaining a warm and supportive home, showing interest in children's progress at school, helping with homework, discussing the value of a good education and possible career options, staying in touch with teachers and school staff.

6. Encourage reading, writing, and discussions among family members.

Examples: Reading, listening to children read and talking about what is being read.

LEARN ABOUT IRRATIONAL BELIEFS

 

IRRATIONAL BELIEFS

1. Everything I do must be approved and loved by virtually everybody.
   
2. I have to be completely competent, totally in control, and successful in everything I do.
   
3. It is catastrophic when things are not going the way I want them to go.
   
4. My unhappiness is not my fault. People and events over which I have no control are responsible.
   
5. Anytime I encounter something that I fear, I need to be consumed with worries and upset about it.
   
6. It is easier to avoid life's difficulties and responsibilities than to develop a better system for meeting them.
   
7. My life and the people with whom I work should be changed from the way they are.
   

The best I can do for myself is to relax and enjoy life. Inaction and passivity are the best bet to maximize my own enjoyment.

When learning gets Difficult

10 things to do when learning gets difficult

1. Stop what you are doing and have a complete break.
   
2. Think back to what you did the last time you got stuck like this.
   
3. Make a map or list in which you outline what your options are.
   
4. Talk to a friend about it to ask them what they would do.
   
5. Use a book to help you find a way through.
   
6. Use the internet to help you discover an answer.
   
7. Take some exercise and see if a solution comes to you.
   
8. Leave it. Go to bed. Tell yourself before you go to sleep that you will find a way through the problem.
   
9. Try doing whatever you are doing in a completely different location.
   
10. Think of as many questions as you can which, if answered, might help you to work things out.
    

 

 

10 things to do when you are really confused

1. Stay calm.
   
2. Be true to yourself and remind yourself of your original objective.
   
3. Think of three different ways of approaching the situation and see if one of them is helpful.
   
4. Imagine what a practical or theoretical person (whichever you are less of) would do in the situation.
   
5. Go and watch carefully while someone else tackles the same issue and learn from them. (Remember, it is not cheating but a sign of intelligence to imitate others.)
   
6. Find out what experts in the field do in this situation by telephoning them, emailing them, or looking it up in a book.
   
7. Ask someone who apparently knows nothing about the details of what you are doing but who may inject some common-sense advice or get you thinking differently.
   
8. Search for guidance on the internet.
   
9. Come back to the problem at a different time of day.
   

Ponder whether it is the right thing to be continuing with your learning: occasionally it will be smarter to reflect on what you have learned and do something else.

When learning gets Difficult

10 things to do when learning gets difficult

1. Stop what you are doing and have a complete break.
   
2. Think back to what you did the last time you got stuck like this.
   
3. Make a map or list in which you outline what your options are.
   
4. Talk to a friend about it to ask them what they would do.
   
5. Use a book to help you find a way through.
   
6. Use the internet to help you discover an answer.
   
7. Take some exercise and see if a solution comes to you.
   
8. Leave it. Go to bed. Tell yourself before you go to sleep that you will find a way through the problem.
   
9. Try doing whatever you are doing in a completely different location.
   
10. Think of as many questions as you can which, if answered, might help you to work things out.
    

 

 

10 things to do when you are really confused

1. Stay calm.
   
2. Be true to yourself and remind yourself of your original objective.
   
3. Think of three different ways of approaching the situation and see if one of them is helpful.
   
4. Imagine what a practical or theoretical person (whichever you are less of) would do in the situation.
   
5. Go and watch carefully while someone else tackles the same issue and learn from them. (Remember, it is not cheating but a sign of intelligence to imitate others.)
   
6. Find out what experts in the field do in this situation by telephoning them, emailing them, or looking it up in a book.
   
7. Ask someone who apparently knows nothing about the details of what you are doing but who may inject some common-sense advice or get you thinking differently.
   
8. Search for guidance on the internet.
   
9. Come back to the problem at a different time of day.
   

Ponder whether it is the right thing to be continuing with your learning: occasionally it will be smarter to reflect on what you have learned and do something else.

Anger and Health

Do you notice any of the following signs that anger may be affecting your health or level of comfort?

1. Your energy level, physical comfort, or sense of satisfaction is not what it used to be.

2. A health problem has been aggravated lately or flares up when you feel particularly "stressed" or irritated.

3. You find it harder to relax, let your hair down, and have fun. Others have commented on your being too serious or preoccupied. Everything seems like a chore.

4. You avoid activities with people, hobbies, or sports because they now seem too much of a hassle or aggravate you.

    Before the quality of your life and health deteriorates further, it's time to stand back and examine how anger is robbing you of enjoyment, the rewards of your work.

Check your child’s Mood

The Ten symptoms of Clinical Depression

1. A sad, anxious, or 'empty' mood that doesn't go away.
   
2. Sleeping too little or sleeping too much
   
3. Reduced appetite and weight loss or increased appetite and weight gain
   
4. Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed
   
5. Restlessness or irritability
   
6. Physical symptoms that don't respond to treatment
   
7. Difficulty in concentrating, remembering, or making decision
   
8. Fatigue or loss of energy.
   
9. Feeling guilty, hopeless or worthless
   
10. Thoughts of death or suicide
    

A person or a child should seek help if five or more of these symptoms continue for more than two weeks, or if they interfere with daily life.